People can be unbelievably unkind

Every single person to have ever existed has experienced unkind people. I don't want to say cruel or nasty, or vicious because their unkindness comes in various forms. 

And it's always a surprise to us because I think we genuinely think that we wouldn't do it to them - so why have they done what they did to us?

You will meet some people who are majorly selfish, unkind, nasty, picky, argumentative, greedy, jealous - just vindictive in certain ways and they really hurt you, and you can't explain why they are doing it. All you know is that they have hurt you, and upset you and you feel a anger towards them.

But I've realised that the problem is not you - it's not that you have deserved that hurt, or hateful behaviour. The problem is them. Cliche, I know but its true. 
Because I'm thinking about people in my life who have hurt me and I know that it wasn't revenge based. It was more self-fulfilling if you understand what I mean. It maybe made them feel good about themselves. 

Or it helped them vent their own anger, or they were feeling a certain way themselves and had to let off the steam but snapping at me. I'm generally a sensitive person and I can wear my heart on my sleeve and really can get worked up super easily. I have a problem where by, I cry at everything - I get tearful if I'm sad, angry, upset, hurting, everything is expressed through tears.

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