A human instinct since birth is needing to belong - a feeling that people care about you and that you have a sense of belonging to people around you.
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I came across this quote a few months ago, and I was so amazed. I thought that this quote sums up the world we live in so perfectly. It was the type of thing you'd find in the book, 1984 by George Orwell - and I'm a huge fan of that book.
So I had to jot it down somewhere to revisit to remind myself, that I am content with my messy, non-upgraded life. I just need to stop wanting more. We all need to stop wanting more all the time. Just being content in life is a big thing. We can't help but compare our progress to that of others. We want to achieve so much in such a little amount of time.
FRIENDS.FAMILY.LOVE // JULY
My lovely friend, from University times, got wed. My friend, Anah and I had an awesome time at her Hen party and her wedding. Congratulations Naz and Hakan on your special day. "You will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do.".
—David Foster Wallace, Infinite Jest Never trust words; anyone can be charming and say all of the right things. But rather, judge how a person treats you and acts towards you.
It's actions, not words that matter. As you grow older, your circle of friends gets smaller.
When I was younger, I had, what I thought back then, "friends for life." However, I think this lovely little quote is quite apt here: "You all too gracefully walked out of my life, took your final bow, and exited stage left. I was just a scene in the movie that is your life and the curtain finally went down on me, leaving me in the dark." And when this happened, I was really upset. I couldn't understand why "friends" of mine would write me off from their lives in an instant. I used to think of ways to reconcile things with one particular one and it felt like my attempts were failing. But then, acceptance arrived and gave me a warm hug. It told me I can cope without a bunch of friends and life goes on. I'm grateful for my current friends. I don't have many, but the ones I do have are the ones I really love, cherish and hope will be mine forever. I believe people cross your path for a reason and leave it at a certain time for another reason. I enjoyed studying Psychology as an A/Level. It was deeply fascinating - but when it came to the exam, we were told about a formula that guaranteed a pass mark. It was the formula of how to construct an argument. You have to make a statement. You have to use evidence. You have to conclude this statement. Then start a new paragraph and do the same.
It was pretty cool, because this formula allowed me to get an A in my overall A Level. I was thrilled! Anyway, although I didn't pursue Psychology study further, or use it in my career, from time to time, I like to read magazines like Psychology Today and it often certain statements, research, evidence or conclusions stand out to me because of people or situations I've come across. Here's a quote I came across today and I feel like this is something so many parents make the mistake of doing with their children: Parents who raise narcissists, Ludden says, "present to their kids a world where everything is a competition: There are winners and losers and you've got to be a winner." A healthier approach would be to teach children that "they don't have to be the best, just the best that they can be." This is especially apparent in Indian/Pakistani cultures as I have witnessed this in many relatives/friends circles - they love to compare kids to other kids in their families, as though it is a race to the finishing line. Jeeeeeeeeez. Just calm downnnn. :) Peace. |