Humans are such sensitive souls. We feel so hurt at the slightest of things. We cling on to hurt and cradle it for a very long time. We punish ourselves for thinking about it constantly. We love showing it to those who we wish to comfort us. But what if we were to look at everything without the emotion of attachment, care, love?
When two people are friends, it's usually because your lives crossed paths, your personalities are like Ying and Yang or one of you simply continued to annoy the other until friendship flourished. What happens though, when one of them disrupts the status quo? Strong friendships should be able to get through tough times.
When two people get married, it is because you love one another, or, you feel like you want to move your life onto it's next chapter, you want children, you want to share life experiences with someone special. You might want to have children and spend he rest of your life happily with companionship. You might want to marry someone wealthy to make your life easy - although this never happens to end in a happily ever after from what I've seen or read. But again, marriage itself is another fragile relationship, which you have to work on daily to ensure it is growing, nurtured and feels solid.
What doesn't make sense to me though, is that once a friend of yours meets a man she wants to marry, and changes all of a sudden, then she seems less interested in your friendship, she spends almost all of her time with him, and makes barely any time for you, seems disinterested in everything else topic wise besides her man, then what are you supposed to do? Do you leave her to it?
What do you do when your relationship with your husband or wife is going rocky? As a significant other, you should play your part in caring for your other person - at times you'll find yourself being a councillor, sometimes a cook, sometimes a cleaner, sometimes a motivational speaker, but you're trying to be the best version of yourself in this life, and there tends to be expectations from both parties (no matter how much you're told the other doesn't expect anything, that's BS) Everyone expects. Were we not born from our mothers expecting to be fed? Were we not born expecting our parents to take care of us? Of course we were. It's in our DNA.